Learn to Dream Again
Have you thought about what kind of marriage you want to have?
One thing that I’ve noticed with my clients (and even myself sometimes) is that we don’t even want to go there in our minds. At some point in our lives, we stop dreaming that a great marriage is a possibility for us, so we just stop thinking about it altogether. Do you find yourself falling into this pattern too?
As a little girl, I was always dreaming about being married. I had a very clear idea about what marriage to the love of my life would feel like. I knew that I wanted to feel like he adored me and that I adored him. I wanted us to be totally in sync and to work together perfectly.
As I grew up and eventually got married to the love of my life, my dreaming stopped. I believed that my marriage could never live up to the dreams that I was creating, so I decided not to dream at all.
Not dreaming didn’t feel good. I felt stuck and kind of flattened. I loved my husband but marriage was very different than I thought it would be and I couldn’t see it ever getting better.
Of course, dreams change over time and the kind of marriage that I dream about now is very different than it was when I was a kid.
If you could have any kind of marriage that you wanted, what would it be?
What would it look like?
How would you feel if you had it?
How would your life be different than it is right now?
Dreaming is the first step in the process of change. Dreaming that things could be different. That you could be different.
Once I learned to dream again, dreamed that I didn’t have to feel stuck in my marriage, that I could feel like a true partner with my husband, my life began to open up. I started to change.
At first, it was really scary. I was afraid that the changes would change my marriage. End my marriage. I was afraid he wouldn’t love me anymore.
And it did change my marriage. In so many wonderful ways.
Dreaming is the first step toward change. Let yourself dream. It feels so good.
This is the kind of work that we do every week in coaching. We talk about opening yourself up to the possibility of an amazing relationship. And we work on actually making it happen.
If this is something you want help with, I would love to help. Just sign up for a free coaching call and we can get you on the road to opening yourself up to your dreams again. There is no pressure to buy. Just talking it out can be so helpful and open up so many new ways of seeing your marriage.
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